Wake Up, American Women

Don't Under Estimate Yourself!

2011-01-06T18:13:00.000-08:00

Happy New Year everyone! Welcome to 2011.

This is the best corporate speech I've heard in a long time. At the first ever TED Women Conference, Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook, shares important tips for women in exercising leadership skills in the workplace: 1) Sit at the table. Negotiate for yourself. Women systematically underestimate their abilities. Take advantage of the opportunities that are available; 2) Make your partner a REAL partner. Ask for the help you need at home; 3) Don't leave before you leave. Even if you are planning to have children "someday" don't make premature plans to leave your career before it's necessary.

Awesome information! Thanks, Sheryl. Enjoy!

http://www.ted.com/talks/sheryl_sandberg_why_we_have_too_few_women_leaders.html

We've hit an all new low in American television

2010-11-17T21:22:00.000-08:00

A new reality television show called Bridalplasty is scheduled to begin this month. As you finish your Thanksgiving dinner of turkey and cranberry sauce, you can tune in to see women compete for their wish list of plastic surgeries just before they say "I do."

What an incredibly sad comment on our society that women would subject themselves to this ridiculous level of scrutiny and men would condone it. Plastic surgery comes with all kinds of risk factors. For the men, if you really love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them, do you want them engaging in multiple voluntary procedures that could potentially kill them? And, for the ladies, aren't you supposed to feel so good when you're with this person that you wouldn't change a thing?

Any couple that signs up for this insane show needs serious counseling, not a plastic surgery competition.

A Great Campaign to Ban “Fat Talk”

2010-10-14T09:59:00.000-07:00

An excellent start at changing beliefs about body image! It's time we shift our focus and our perspective.

Do I Look Fat? Don't Ask. A Campaign to Ban “Fat Talk”

Good news from the United Nations......

2010-07-22T11:34:00.000-07:00

Women's issues are being made a priority. When the world helps women, women help the world.

http://www.un.org/apps/news/story.asp?NewsID=35224&Cr=gender&Cr1=

Jessica's "Daily Affirmation"

2010-06-29T10:50:00.000-07:00

Little Girls Dance Routine to "Single Ladies" by Beyonce @ WOD

2010-05-16T16:21:00.000-07:00

Quote of the month: Tuli Kupferberg

2010-04-03T16:22:00.000-07:00

When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge.

-Tuli Kupferberg

Happy International Women's Day!

2010-03-08T09:48:00.000-08:00

On this day, when I think about my friends and sisters around the globe, I realize again how very blessed I am by the mere virtue of being a United States citizen. I have every freedom, every privilege and every opportunity to live to my potential. The pursuit of happiness is my birth right in my nation's constitution.

I embrace all that I have in mind, body and spirit and I send pause to those who think of the "American dream" as a race to accumulate material wealth to look again at all of the gifts that surround them that are readily available in this country!! Stop for a moment, take a deep breath and look at our abundant lives through new eyes. Just appreciate the basic things that many don't have: clean water, access to health care and free education in public schools.

And, knowing that ultimately, we are all connected and global citizens. As Virginia Woolf said beautifully: As a woman I have no country. As a woman my country is the world.

The price of suppressing the girl cells - Eve Ensler

2010-02-16T10:29:00.000-08:00

Check out Eve Ensler's speech at the TED conference. She addresses the price of the "missing feminine principle" for both girls and boys. The text is a brief synopsis of the 30 minute video.

http://www.cnn.com/2010/OPINION/02/02/ensler.TED.talk.girl.power/index.html

Quote of the month: Deepak Chopra

2010-02-05T08:17:00.000-08:00

The new reality must harmonize the masculine and feminine in our culture and corporate environments. Masculine energies such as conquest, predation, violent action, and certitude have created imbalance in the world.

Leadership that expresses feminine archetypal energies such as beauty, intuition, creativity, insight, inspiration, nurturing, affection and tenderness will bring sanity, peace, harmony, laughter and love to a world that desperately wants to awaken to a new way of living and being.

-Deepak Chopra, M.D., Spirituality Expert, Author

What are we buying in America? Do we even know?

2010-02-04T14:16:00.000-08:00

Take a look at this month's cover of Vanity Fair. It is strewn with beautiful girls. Unfortunately, all beautiful girls that fit only one mold. The ultra thin, size zero model. The western iconic image that women and girls are pummelled with daily. If this is the only image being promulgated by the media and recent studies show that adolescents are dialed into the media an average of seven and half hours a day, how do girls who do not look like this feel about themselves?

http://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/features/2010/03/cover-girls-201003

Do adolescent girls really have the resilience to cast this image aside and pretend it doesn't matter to them? Can they really be expected "not to care" if they don't look like this? Where in our society is the message that tells them this image is not important? Is there even an alternative message being conveyed?

Do we really ever consider what our daughters are digesting culturally in terms of body image? And, what are we actively doing to help them build strong internal cores so that they can shrug off these external messages that invalidate them if they don't fit this mold? What can we do in our every day lives to remind girls they are whole and complete exactly the way they are??

Here are a few things to consider:
1) We should not be critical of our own bodies in front of our daughters. Any scrutiny we put upon ourselves will transfer to our girls scrutinizing themselves in the same way;
2) Choose movies, magazines, books and music that demonstrate/value women leading lives of meaning and purpose; and
3) Acknowledge, praise and support the development of internal qualities, gifts and talents in ourselves, our girls and other women.

Remember, they are watching us to learn how to take care of themselves and treat others.

Quote of the month: Elizabeth Cady Stanton

2010-01-11T18:21:00.000-08:00

Great as our country is in her boundless acres, majestic forests, mighty lakes and rivers, and inexhaustible sources of wealth, she has hidden treasures in the undeveloped powers of her women, that if employed would add more wealth of the state, than all of our other resources together.

-Elizabeth Cady Stanton - 1875

And, a special PS Quote to set the intention for the new decade!

Whatever America hopes to bring to pass in the world must first come to pass in the heart of America.

-President Dwight D. Eisenhower

Quote of the month: Shunryn Suzuki

2009-12-16T10:53:00.000-08:00

The true purpose of zen is to see things as they are,
and to let things go as they go

-Shunryn Suzuki, "zen mind, beginner's mind"

In this season of illumination and lights, can you see things as they are and let things go as they go? Is there anything that you are holding on to that needs to be let go. Is there a circumstance that you find yourself trying to change that doesn't require analysis or change? What can you let go as it goes and improve your own situation?

How far have American women come as leaders?? The White House Project Reports

2009-11-13T10:42:00.000-08:00

http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/YourMoney/white-house-project-reports-womens-leadership-hurdles/story?id=9068095

Quote of the month: Matthew Arnold

2009-10-14T09:34:00.000-07:00

If ever there comes a time when the women of the world come together purely and simply for the benefit of mankind, it will be a force such as the world has never known.
-Matthew Arnold (1822-1888)

Girl Power

2009-10-12T16:32:00.000-07:00

The little gals in this video show us how important it is to use our voice! When we co-create together, beautiful things happen.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jCJRkUO_odo

Quote of the month: Wynonna Judd

2009-09-13T09:57:00.000-07:00

Ladies, throw out your scales! Weighing yourself every day is as stupid as a man measuring his "manhood" every morning. I'm not going to do it anymore. Instead of beating myself up for the ten things I didn't do, I'm going to appreciate the two things I did do. I'm going to start celebrating myself.

-Wynonna Judd, musical artist, when asked about her plans for the new year

09/09/09 - Birthdays

2009-09-09T11:04:00.001-07:00

Today is my birthday. I am celebrating being a healthy, red-blooded American girl with an exquisite life brimming with possibilities!! :) Women should be celebrating themselves not only on their birthdays, but every day!

Celebrate the right to vote!

2009-08-26T13:51:00.000-07:00

Failure is impossible
-Susan Anthony

Last night I met with a group of female colleagues who volunteer for an organization called Gather The Women. We are a self-organizing global matrix of women who support each other in the call to feminine leadership. Simple platform, lofty goal. It's easy to join and easy to participate. There are no required meetings and no dues. In many instances, we are merely joining together in circle to hold sacred space for one another's voices to be heard.

Only two hours before, I was reading the August 23, 2009 edition of The New York Times Magazine titled "Saving The World's Women." This is a poignant piece of journalism on the anniversary of American women achieving the right to vote. You see, some of the women profiled in this magazine, still in 2009, don't have the right to vote. One Pakistan woman was being beaten daily by her husband and her brother-in-law until she obtained a microloan and established a successful embroidery business to support both of them. She was not allowed to leave her house to meet with other women without her husband's permission. Another woman talked about the 1 million girls that are missing in China and India due to newborn killing or neglect because female children are considered liabilities in these countries. Yet another story told of the acid attacks on girls walking to school just last year in Afghanistan.

We sometimes forget in this country how richly blessed we are because of the rights and freedoms that our foremothers so graciously risked their lives to achieve for us. While most of the developing world is trying to figure out how to provide clean water, food and vaccinations to their children, we easily choose from the hot and cold tap for drinking water, showers and laundry; we frequent grocery stores with overwhelming selections of products; and we sit comfortably in our homes with all of the modern electronic conveniences of the western world.

As the meeting with my sisters in the circle drew to a close, I recalled all of the womens stories that I read in the afternoon. It brought tears to my eyes to think what it would be like to have to ask permission to join my friends for our little monthly gathering or to expect daily beatings by men for unsatisfactory economic or child bearing performance.

It reminded me what visionary lives Susan Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton led working together over 50 years to sow the winter wheat for suffrage they would never experience. It gave me pause to honor Alice Paul and Lucy Burns who were willing to sacrifice their lives as they led the hunger strikes that would eventually yield votes for women.

If there's ever a moment when you are feeling anything less than an absolute rampage of appreciation to be a woman living in the United States, just think of the women who worked diligently for 72 years to bring the banquet table of opportunities that are available to each of us and the two-thirds of women in the world who still do not have the fundamental freedoms that we take for granted everyday.

2009-08-17T14:14:00.001-07:00

Last week I heard about a new book titled UNCOVERED: Baring It All by Jordon Matter. It is a breathtaking collection of photographs featuring ordinary women of varying shapes and sizes baring their breasts in different NYC settings, such as parks, street corners and parades. Those portrayed then wrote essays about this vulnerable experience of publicly embracing their feminine form. The inspiration for the project came, in part, the author/photographer explained, from his daily photo shoots with high paid NYC models who, in theory, have the ideal figure, but, surprisingly still loathe their own bodies. He observed that regardless of how skinny, how photographed, or how sought after they are, these “model” women are still not content with how they look.

This made me wonder, if these size zero, sickly thin twigs aren’t happy about how they look and this is the western iconic image that is being shoved down every woman’s throat, minute by minute, day in and day out, how are any other women supposed to be satiated with their appearance? Is “being a slave to fashion” a very literal problem in the United States and are we even aware of it?

Hopeful to learn more about the transformational experience of the female participants who bore all, I headed to the network media website promoting the book. Once there, I found a haunting milieu of headlines, “Overweight? 5 reasons it’s your fault” “Kids as young as 3 can have chronic depression, Antidepressant use doubles in the U.S.” “How to get a better butt” “Women turning to hormones to look younger” “Skinny jeans leaving women numb” and “Teens and plastic surgery.” Seriously?

If this is truly the primary focus of American women (and I have to believe it is because network media is producing what sells) and we have been free to make our own choices for almost a century, are we really conscious of what we are choosing? What messages are we absorbing that create a constant obsession with our external appearance seemingly to the detriment of developing a strong, healthy inside core. And, furthermore, what messages are we truly sending our daughters if antidepressant use has doubled in the US and teens are turning to plastic surgery at alarming rates? It appears that since 1920, skinny jeans have merely replaced corsets and we have traded diets for voting rights as the latest shackles that hold women back.
While I applaud Mr. Matter for his effort to lift women out of this new bondage that we have converted from old patterns and beliefs, it is going to take much more interior effort on the part of women themselves to shift from this exterior obsession slavery to accessing the authentic beauty and freedom found only on the inside.

Quote of the month: Alice Paul

2009-08-16T13:07:00.000-07:00

There will never be a new world order until women are a part of it.
-Alice Paul